As you’ve probably picked up, I’m a great advocate of honest and empathic communication. When I get my communication sorted out, so many things are more enjoyable and peaceful in my life. One area of my life I struggled with over the years has been my intimate relationships. I guess I’m not the only one! I’ve found them a source of great joy, growth and inspiration (plus 2 lovely daughters!) and also a huge challenge and headache. I’ve learned from the many mistakes I made and I’d like to say I’ve now hit on a magic solution for success...

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I’m not telepathic, I never have been and I doubt I ever will. I’m not ruling out the possibility entirely, as evolution (or the Creator, if you prefer that explanation) has worked wonders so far … but I’m not going to bet any money on it. There are times though, when I tend to treat people as if they do have the power to read my mind, especially in my intimate relationships. I have noticed that sometimes I hope and wait for, in this case my wife, to  notice I want something. It could be as simple as a...

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It’s pretty much accepted we form first impressions very quickly and on quite limited information. I know I do, and it’s a habit that doesn’t always serve me well. The problem is that it’s only a short step from first impression to a whole set of assumptions and expectations about people. This experience was recounted to me a few years back by Nada, probably one of the most fully alive people I know. “I was on a retreat in a forest by the side of a lake. It was one of those amazingly peaceful places where you can really...

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